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Friendships Across Borders: Aao Dosti Karein is a peace education, story-sharing and social media initiative working to facilitate connections and collaborations between Indians and Pakistanis.

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Friendships Across Borders: Aao Dosti Karein is a peace education, story-sharing and social media initiative working to facilitate connections and collaborations between Indians and Pakistanis.

We work to challenge stereotypes and create an open-hearted conversation committed to mutual well-being.
Our activities include:
  • Documenting stories of cross-border friendships
  • Highlighting the shared cultural heritage of the people of India and Pakistan
  • Collaborating with schools, colleges and universities to introduce a pedagogy of peace, and to share positive stories from 'the other side'
  • Running social media campaigns to emphasize the power of people-to-people contact in trust-building and reconciliation
  • Amplifying voices of peace in the region


Chintan Girish Modi

Chintan Girish Modi: Chintan is the founder of Friendships Across Borders: Aao Dosti Karein. He is a writer, educator and researcher with a specialization in English Language Education and a passion for peace. His work involves teaching, curriculum development, editing, children's literature, media and art. He has been a consultant to Seeds of Peace, the Hri Institute for South-Asian Research and Exchange, and the Southasian Children's Cinema Forum. He has received fellowships and scholarships from many organisations and has been involved in India-Pakistan peace initiatives led by the Citizens Archive of Pakistan, Aman Ki Asha, the Red Elephant Foundation, and Women in Security, Conflict Management and Peace.




Kirthi Jayakumar: Kirthi Jayakumar is a lawyer, journalist, artist, author and a peace and conflict researcher from Chennai, India. She graduated from the School of Excellence in Law, India, with a concentration in Public International Law, and from UPeace, Costa Rica, with a Masters' degree in Peace and Conflict Studies, and a minor concentration on Gender and Humanitarian Laws. Kirthi is the author of a work of fiction called Stories of Hope, and has written two non-fiction books, Public International Law and Essays on Gender in Peace and Conflict. She runs The Red Elephant Foundation, and The A38 Foundation, besides being a VVLeadFellow. Kirthi is an avid reader and a zen-doodler, and is awaiting the release of three books in 2015.



Nidhi Shendurnikar

Nidhi Shendurnikar-Tere: Nidhi was introduced to India-Pakistan peace through a doctoral work on "India-Pakistan Conflict Mediation and Role of the Media". She submitted a PhD thesis in Political Science at The Maharaja Sayajirao University of Baroda, Gujarat. She is a peacebuilding fellow at The Red Elephant Foundation. When not writing and researching on peace, Nidhi loves to teach, travel and be with family. She is a regular contributor to Aman ki Asha, OpenDemocracy, The Alternative, SayftyCom and Women's Web. Passionate about gender issues, Nidhi hopes to travelling to Pakistan someday, relishes Gujarati food, is a garba enthusiast and follows Pakistani dramas on Zee Zindagi. Nidhi blogs here and collaboratively with her dear friend Sehr Nisar from Pakistan here.

You are therefore I Am

You Are, Therefore I Am

Inspired by Satish Kumar's book of the same title, this inititiative is simple.
Supporters of Friendships Across Borders send a photo and answer one of these questions.

If you're from India, complete this: "I would love to have a Pakistani friend because...."

If you're from Pakistan, complete this: "I would love to have an Indian friend because...."

Answers and photos are published online here


When we heard about the tragic massacre of over a 100 children at a school in Peshawar in November 2014, we thought that the best thing we could do was to invite Indians to send messages of strength and solidarity to Pakistanis.

Many people responded, from India, from the Indian diaspora, and from various other parts of the world. We were moved by the spirit of friendship and compassion in those messages, especially the ones that were sent by school children. To know more about the campaign, click on any of the links below: 

#IndiaWithPakistan: Peace for Peshawar

#IndiaWithPakistan: Ecole Mondiale Entries

#IndiaWithPakistan: Sangam Vihar Entries

#IndiaWithPakistan: Individual Entries

Chintan reading

Cross border friendships a dreamer's recipe for peace

Inteview with Chintan Girish Modi, founder of Friendships Across Borders: Aao Dosti Karein by Nidhi Shendurnikar Tere

What inspired you to be a peacebuilder? Any reasons for specifically choosing to work on India-Pakistan issues?

I am not sure if there is a special category of person called ‘peacebuilder’. I feel personally perturbed by the animosity that India and Pakistan have built towards each other for decades, and I want this to change. People in both countries have many stereotypes about each other, thanks to how we learn about the other side from history books, and more so from the media. Politicians, of course, know how to whip up nationalist sentiments at the drop of a hat, and spread hate. This makes me deeply upset because the focus is deepening divides instead of celebrating our shared heritage and interconnectedness. Sitting and wishing for a transformation will yield no results if I don’t do something. This belief is what led to my getting involved in India-Pakistan exchanges aimed at improving relations between the two countries through people-to-people contact. I must be honest and say that I have done very little but I am doing what I can.

How did you begin your journey into peacebuilding?

I used to work with the Kabir Project at the Srishti School of Art, Design and Technology in Bangalore. It is led by Shabnam Virmani, a documentary filmmaker and dear friend of mine, who turned to the poetry of Kabir after the violence and insanity unleashed in Gujarat in 2002. Of all her films, the one that affected me most was ‘Had-Anhad’ (Bounded-Boundless). It had a big impact on me, particularly the Pakistan sequences in the film. The ceremony at Wagah seemed absurd. The people on the other side seemed so similar to the ones on this side. Something felt utterly strange. I felt a deep sorrow but at that point of time I didn’t know that I too could do something. This experience stayed at the back of my mind. I joined the Kabir Project to look after the educational outreach aspect of their work. It was a rich and meaningful experience, soaking in the poetry of Kabir, Bulleh Shah and Mira, learning from them, and sharing that with children and teachers through workshops and interactions.

After that, I moved back to Mumbai. In 2012, while working with Shishuvan School in Mumbai, I had the opportunity to visit Pakistan as part of Exchange for Change, a project run jointly by the Citizens Archive of Pakistan and a Delhi-based organization Routes 2 Roots. After that, I have participated in other peacebuilding initiatives, and also been to Pakistan twice, for the Children’s Literature Festival in Lahore in 2013, and the one in Islamabad in 2014.

Any hiccups through this journey?

Oh yes! I have come across people who think that being Indian is synonymous with being anti-Pakistan. I used to get annoyed earlier but I realized that I needed to stay calm in order to continue doing my work. Prejudices will not disappear overnight. Those who are hurting will not heal in a jiffy. In order to do peacebuilding work, one has to prepare oneself to listen to all sorts of perspectives, yet stay calm. It’s not easy. Not at all. One of my school mates once commented on my Facebook page, stating that I should give up my Indian citizenship if I love Pakistanis so much. It is a rather simplistic understanding you, see. It is possible to love Indians and Pakistanis, and Afghans, and Americans, and Tibetans, and Palestinians. Why should love and friendship be restricted only to people who share our nationality? In fact, I prefer using words like ‘friendship’ and ‘love’ over ‘peace’. Friendship sounds like something you and I can do. Peace somehow sounds distant, something that is decided by people who sign treaties and agreements.

What keeps you going in the face of these hiccups?

Hope. And people who share my hope and dreams.

Tell us about your collaborations and friendships through this journey.

I have many dear friends in Pakistan, and there are some wonderful anecdotes to share. However, given the constraints of space, I’m going to mention only the ones I’ve also collaborated with on specific programmes. Anam Zakaria and Haroon Khalid in Islamabad are the ones who come to mind immediately. I met them thanks to the Exchange for Change project I mentioned earlier. Since then, we’ve done a lot of stuff together – whether it was participating with them at WISCOMP’s Conflict Transformation Workshop in Delhi, or working with Haroon at the Hri Institute for Southasian Research and Exchange, or being fellow panelists at a discussion on peace education in Islamabad. They are two of my dearest friends, and I make it a point to meet them every time I visit Pakistan.

Then there’s Shiraz Hassan, my journalist friend from Rawalpindi, who is one of the nicest people I know. He speaks little but is an amazingly warm-hearted being who I remember most for bike rides, walks through bazaars, and his unique sense of humour. Aman Ki Asha gave us the opportunity to participate in the ‘Conversations’ series, an exchange of letters over six weeks, and these got published in The News. We discussed art, history, music, literature, politics, our work, our everyday lives, the similarities and shared cultural heritage. I eventually met Shiraz in person on my second trip to Pakistan.

I’d also like to tell you about my friend Sheharyar Rizwan who lives in Lahore. He’s a journalist with Dawn, and we have been paired for this year-long programme called the Building Peace Project. We are one of ten such India-Pakistan pairs who write collaborative blogs, stay in touch through social media, and participate in online discussions around prescribed readings. I am so grateful to have discovered Sheharyar. He lives so far away but I know if I have to reach out for help, I can do that without a moment’s doubt. You see what I mean? One feels personally invested in friendships. ‘Peace’ just seems so out there.

Tell us something about Friendships Across Borders: Aao Dosti Karein.

Actually, the idea is quite simple. In India, there’s so much bad news about Pakistan that it is almost impossible for a large number of people to even imagine that they could be friends with someone across the border. Similarly, in Pakistan, there are people who promote hostility towards India. I felt like there’s only so much that conferences and seminars can do. People-to-people contact is where the real stuff of peacebuilding seems to lie. I thought it would be a good idea to share stories of cross-border friendships, so I started looking for these. I got Pakistanis to write about their friends in India, and Indians to write about their friends in Pakistanis. These stories are about how they first met each other, what this friendship means to them in the context of the hostile relations between our countries, how their perceptions about the other side have changed because of this friendship, etc.

When I think of friendship, I think of warmth and caring, of opening up one’s heart to listen and be there. See, you can be friends with people of another nationality. When you find common ground over so many other things, nationality becomes just one of your many attributes. Who you are is not just your citizenship, or the country you were born into. I also visit schools and colleges, on invitation, to talk about these ideas with young people, sometimes using art, theatre and films.

What are your views on young people and their role in peace-building?

Young people living in India and Pakistan, and in the South Asian diaspora, have a very important role to play. Our countries have been in conflict for too long, and our people, societies and economies have suffered a great deal. Though a large number of young people have grown up listening to stories of Partition because their families were personally affected, many of them want to establish friendly relations with people across the border. People want the healing to happen. The pain is too much to bear. Despite the stereotypes people in both countries have about each other, many Pakistanis would love to travel to India, meet their friends and family here, visit their religious shrines, study here, or even just travel around. Similarly, several Indians would like to go to Pakistan, either to see the homes of their ancestors who migrated, or because they have friends they’ve met on Facebook, or have studied with in the US, Europe, or elsewhere, or just for tourism. It’s such a tragedy that we don’t even have enough exchange programmes for young people in both countries. Imagine Indians and Pakistanis studying together, or working at the same place. Such amazing opportunities to learn about each other, and move past our legacy of suspicion!

How has the new media contributed to peacebuilding?

Oh yes! Definitely! It’s thanks to Facebook and Twitter that thousands of young Indians and Pakistanis have got the opportunity to interact with each other without the rigmarole of applying for a visa and, if they are lucky, getting one. These are rich conversations. Young people are not talking only about India and Pakistan. They are talking about combating gender-based violence, improving education, protesting against human rights abuses, making music, conserving heritage, or even just movies and television shows they like watching. These conversations show us how shallow our stereotypes are, how urgently we need to embrace each other, say sorry, and commit ourselves to each other’s well-being.

I Am Not A Stereotype Workshop at Comet Media Foundation, MumbaiI Am Not A Stereotype Workshop at Comet Media Foundation, Mumbai

In the News

Friendships Across Borders: Beyond Violence/Sophie Chan (April-2015)

Making Media, Building Peace: Beyond Violence/Nidhi Shendurnikar-Tere (April 2015)

Mission sharing Knowledge, "CWC - India v. Pakistan: Bridging Divides and Overcoming Prejudices (February 2015)

Bay Side Journal, "India v. Pakistan: Let's Play for Peace" (February 2015)

Aman ki Asha, "We are With You" (December 24, 2014)

Vikalp Sangam, "Friends in other places" (December 17, 2014)

Times of India, "Pak school attack: Border blurs as people come together in grief" (December 19, 2014)

Times of India, "It is unfortunate that Mumbai police saw it fit to stall Pak band" (December 04, 2014)

Megha Radhakrishnan, "Truly Indian" (August 15, 2014)

The Hindu, "Digitising memories" (August 2, 2014)

The Hindu, "Conferring with Nature" (June 2, 2014)

CNN-IBN Live "An Indian's humble effort to boost Indo-Pak relations" (June 1,2014)

Teacher Plus, "Reaching Across, Building Bridges"

Campus Diaries, "Crossborder Friendships"

Friendships Across Borders: Aao Dosti Karein

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Friendships Across Borders: The Way Forward

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