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Compassion In Kenya

Compassion-CBO

Compassion CBO

Safe World Field Partner in Kenya - Compassion CBO, was formed to eradicate poverty through education and sustainable development among women living in the slums and rural areas and to rehabilitate orphans and vulnerable children.

Survivors In DR Congo

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COFAPRI

COFAPRI is based in Bukavu in the eastern Democratic Rupublic of Congo The organisation empowers women through encouraging income-generating activities such as the rearing of livestock.

Field Partner News

Safe World Field Partner, work directly with issues such as poverty, health-care, marginalisation, FGM, child marriage, and education.

Asha Leresh

How Asha Survived the Unnecessary Cut

Asha’s luck came when Samuel Siriria Leadismo, the Director of Pastoralist Child Foundation and his team visited her village, creating awareness about female genital mutilation (FGM) and sexual reproductive health....
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Washing Hands to Improve Health in Rural DR Congo

COFAPRI organised handwashing sessions for school children and mothers in rural villages, with the aid of educational DVDs kindly supplied by Thare Machi Education. The word has begun to spread as neighbours are now prompting each other to wash their hands.
Safe Spaces

Safe Spaces Crucial for Women's Self-Reliance in Rural DR Congo

Increased security helps women become self-reliant and less financially dependent on their husbands. This improves the situation for the whole family and also means the women are less vulnerable to abuse.
Towards womens empowerment

DR Congo: Men's Inclusion in Women's Empowerment Benefits Everyone

It remains very important within communities for men and boys to be educated regarding the rights of women and girls, including their proper, fair and respectful treatment. When the women and girls become empowered, it is the whole community that benefits.
Margaret from Kiambu Support Group

Nairobi cancer survivor has hope at last

Margaret is among many women Compassion CBO trained in 2015. She has survived breast Cancer 2 times.

New Womens Magazine for Cameroon

The first edition of the Women for a Change Magazine is now available.

News, Interviews and Blogs

Under-reported issues affecting women and children. Exclusive interviews, articles and blogs by Safe World Correspondents and Content Partners

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The Need for Victim Compensation Programmes - Pakistan and Globally

Globally, victim compensation programmes play a significant role in providing assistance to the victims of violence... however, in Pakistan we are lacking any such programme. It is high time to take serious note of the issue and develop a strong referral…
Lizzy and Victoria

Peace, Dialogue & the Ripple Effect: #RISING16 Global Peace Forum

Perhaps the most inspiring session for me came towards the end of the two days and was entitled ‘Bring back our girls – the forgotten victims of conflict’... We heard the CEO of International Alert, Harriet Lamb, and Victoria Nyanjura - who was kidnapped by…
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Olutosin Adebowale: To America With Love

Once upon a time in my country, Nigeria, there was a ruler who was dreaded by many... We resisted and said No to every oppressive action or word to any weak or voiceless Nigerian... This is the time to stand firm on what has held the world together - Love.
Berlyne Ngwalem Ngwentah

Berlyne Ngwentah: 'The Biggest Cheerleaders of Women are Women'

All the most prominent, biggest community and feminist movements to alleviate the sufferings of women and girls and support women’s involvement in education and leadership have been championed mostly by women...
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Promoting Misogyny, Zenophobia, and Bullying... is.... Nasty

I cannot ever vote for anyone who promotes misogyny, racism, Islamophobia, zenophobia, homophobia... It would be a mockery of my life... dishonoring my elders who have endured the many injustices of racial animosity, my friends who've experienced the same...
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Women United for a Better Community in High Andean of Peru

“Women United for a Better Community” is a new group of grassroots women in the Ayacucho Region at the South High Andean of Peru, recently created by Estrategia, a National Grassroots women's organization. The grassroots women require to be heard and get the…

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Fighting for the unborn generation

Motherhood, widowhood and silence

The journey does not begin today, it began years back when I was a child and we were neglected because my mother was able to bring forth just girls; she tried many times to bear boys but her womb could only breed girls.

Therefore, when our father died in 1976, May 9, my mother could not demand  any inheritance. She single-handed raised her girls and there was thickening hatred in the family, they were looking for who was responsible for his death. Later on, as I began to understand life, I discovered that every widow in my town was responsible for her husband’s death and never the other way round. There and then I understood the politics behind male and female, the preference for male children and the silence surrounding violation of women and girls rights.

The inequality between men and women was the drive behind my strength, the more the violations, the more my inner power releases strength for me to survive the violations and experiences.

Birth and beatings

Gradually, the journey began, I got married to a tall, huge, broad shoulder and a Christian, I mean the every woman’s dream...
The story remains the same.

In May 25, 2002, I gave birth to my first daughter, I was not immediately discharged because I had Pregnancy Induced Hypertension and was in hospital for more than a week. After discharge from hospital, I expected my husband to support me in the caring for the child but it was new to me because he was always with his friend. I wondered if it would continue this way too; I thought I made the right choice for marrying a well educated and gentle man.

When the baby was twenty eight days old, I received the worst beating of my life, his blows were fully concentrated on my mouth, just for asking my husband to assist in carrying the baby for few minutes so that I can catch some sleep too, his reason for beating me like a forbidden snake was that I was disturbing his concentration while  he was watching film with his siblings. He beat me to stupor; I ended in hospital the next day, with fractured jaw.

My scream woke his parents. His mother was the first to express her feeling, “How can you expect a man to carry a child? I have eight children, 6 male and 2 females, I never for once ask my husband to carry a child, you girls of nowadays are strange.” That was her comment.

My father in law, a man of few words, said his son was gentle - the provocation would have been so much for him to handle - I should not ask a man to carry a child again. They left as he began the usual apologies.

"No woman is free from slaps"

It was like the heavens were collapsing on me, I decided to file for divorce because I was afraid of moving forward in the journey of life with such a man.

I invited my immediate elder sister the same day and, after narrating my ordeal to her, she said,
“This is a Christian marriage, it is till death do you part. If he refuses, carry your child now and it is the duty of a woman to nurture children. Violence against women is part of life; it happens in every marriage. No woman is free from slaps. That is why they are called husband, head of the house and mind you, you brought him to us, nobody forced you to marry him. Violence is part of marriage,”
she left afterwards.

Transformation

While I remained dumbfounded about everybody’s responses, I knew I must quickly take some steps.

With the realization that I was alone in the world, and that I am responsible for my actions and consequences that follow, I took some time out to myself and I had time for reflection on my past life how I used to write and fight for our rights then, in the university. And I began again, to write poems, books drama, etc.

I began the struggle again because of those women out there, who would not know how to reflect and take action. I continue the struggle because of my daughters too, who are not fully accepted because they are not sons and they will one day be stuck if the struggle seizes.

Consequently, I got my groove back and my husband became an advocate for violence against women.

tea-by-the-mango-treeThe fight is for us all

I became an advocate for sexually assaulted children and began to understand the dynamics of sexual assault.

 

The fight is for us all, for the generation of women who are yet unborn.

With the opportunity to join Worldpulse, and my award as one of the Voices of our Future, I knew that the end is not in sight.

There came opportunities to join leading women from all over the world, I began to learn about women again.

The story is the same

I visited Visthar in Bangalore for further training on Gender, Diversity and Transformation. Through learning about violence against women in India and the rest of the world, I discoveredInterviewing-Tanushree- that the story is just the same only the geographical differences.

I picked special interest in Dalits women in India and rural African women because violence has levels too.

In furtherance, Mercy Kappen of Visthar recommended me for further training in Cape Town that is a 4-5 year on Transformation; it is a movement for women and men who are interested in one world for all.

Ange--DivineWomen wake from the slumber - the stage is set

This journey is unveiling by the day, because women worldwide have decided to awake from slumber.

The fight began sometime in the past and each passing day is a witness that the battle can be won, because there are more passionate women joining the stream of our cause; some women did it then and it is our turn to fight the battle now, the stage is set. 

The battle is not replacing patriarchy with matriarchy; it is giving equal rights, access, control and opportunity for both female and male.

"World Pulse told me: I should report through the eyes of women so wherever I go as long as there are women there or their children too, may be their husband, I must report" - Olutosin.

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